Couples fall apart for reasons that become so complicated that the majority are filed under “irreconcilable differences” but the underlying reason is usually because one partner began looking for a conciliatory other while still married.
All marriages go through a few hard lumps. Sometimes you do have to adjust your life to accommodate another lover, but when you do so, you do it logically and with advance planning. Don’t be emotional or arrogant, like some of our celebrity cheater friends.
Don’t make the mistakes that these celebrities did. Learn from their mistakes and save your reputation!
Ashton Kutcher’s Life-Changing Adultery
Their combined assets were worth $290 million, but the six year marriage between Aston Kutcher and Demi Moore hit the rocks when Kutcher’s wandering eye began distressing his wife…and led him into a well publicized threesome with two hot young girls.
Ashton says it was a life-changing moment because he experienced the pain and suffering of divorce first hand.
Kutcher recently received the Robert D. Ray Pillar of Character award at Drake University, Des Moines. He claims he learned to build character after Moore left him and the tabloids were calling him an adulterer. He now understands how much loss is there, how much love is there and that it’s not neat or clean or messy.
Lesson learned: Maybe not a huge threesome scene to start your discreet relationship!
Kristen Stewart’s Double Whammy
Nobody wanted to believe that Twilight star, Kristen Stewart, was cheating on her long-term boyfriend, Robert Pattinson, when rumors first began surfacing in 2012, not even after photographs were published.
A number of loyal fans declared the photos, which showed Stewart and “Snow White and the Huntsman” film director, Rupert Sanders in a hot and heavy make-out session, had been photo shopped.
Sanders’ wife, however, had seen enough. After tweeting “wow” just moments after news agencies asked for her husband’s comments, she closed down her twitter account. One year later, after numerous attempts at reconciliation by both couples, Liberty Ross Sanders had filed for divorce and Robert Pattinson had packed up his pick-up truck with his belongings and left for parts unknown. He complained bitterly about her cheating and that she was always selfish, always moody.
Stewart only carries bittersweet memories of her teenaged love affair now, and a shattered reputation among Twilight fans, but the impact on Rupert Sanders has been much greater. His indiscretion dissolved an eleven year marriage.
Although he has joint custody of their two small children, he is liable for spousal support and attorney fees. He calls his affair with Kristen a mistake and a momentary lapse, but Liberty says it’s over for good. She just doesn’t have anything left to give anymore.
Lesson learned: Don’t go high-profile if you expect to get away with murder, sexually speaking. Choose someone outside your circle, away from the camera so to speak.
Leann Rimes and Eddie Cibrian: Two Cheaters Get Together
Le Ann Rimes and Eddie Cibrian married after they were caught cheating together, but the smoke still hasn’t cleared from the battlefield. Country star, Le Ann Rimes, said her husband of seven years knew she was about to wander down the wrong track when she wrote a song about infidelity. She said she was writing it for a friend, but it was actually her subconscious talking.
A short time later, she was having an affair with Eddie Cibrian, who was also married.
Ex-husband, Dean Sheremet, says he sympathizes with Rimes, whose publicity lime light hasn’t shown very favorably on her since her split. A VH1 reality show with Cibrian was cancelled after just one season.
He admitted he may have over-managed some aspects of her life, but that overall, he and Rimes had been a good team and she had been foolish to walk away from it.
Ex-wife to Eddie Cibrian, Brandi Glanville, is not so charitable in her appraisal of Rimes. She claims that Rimes has been deliberately stalking her boyfriend and “checking out his stuff”. She claims Rimes and Cibrian’s two children deliberately showed up at a restaurant in Malibu after her boyfriend, Donald Friese, had posted that he would be going there. Glanville tweeted, “Stalking my boyfriend to show up with my kids is the last straw”.
Cibrian says this is the last straw and that Glanville’s made-up drama was extremely frustrating, but Glanville feels something’s coming to her after nine years of marriage. The divorce may not have gone the way she would have liked, but she has enough ammunition to keep Le Ann Rimes uncomfortable in public and shaky in her career.
Lesson learned: Easy on the stalking. In fact, don’t bother. It’s the opposite of logical!
Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Biggest Regret
Arnold Schwarzenegger’s versatile career has carried him from muscle beach to action film star with a dynamic personality that paved the way for politics. The sixty-eight year old activist took a knife wound to his reputation, however, when it was discovered he was the father of his housekeeper’s child. It also terminated a twenty-five year marriage.
It’s been six years since the Schwarzenegger’s split up, although they still haven’t officially divorced. Some suspect that neither one is willing to divide their shared four hundred million dollars in assets to two hundred million each.
Maria Shriver has announced she is back out in the dating world and is apparently uninterested in reconciling with her former husband. For his part, in a recent interview, when he was asked about his biggest regret, Arnold Schwarzenegger answered, it was the day he chose to cheat on his wife. But maybe the real mistake was…
Lesson learned: Don’t diddle the housekeeper. Don’t screw where you eat. How about, as a general rule, choose someone outside the house?
Ozzie Osbourne, the Dirty Dog
He got down and dirty when his four year affair with his hair dresser was exposed by the news media. Ozzie Osbourne, front man for Black Sabbath, admitted publicly he had been caught cheating but apologized to Michelle Pugh, and all women he had been having affairs with, for believing they were having anything more than a fling. He told them he was a sex addict and was currently seeking therapy.
It rocked Ozzie fans who didn’t really want to roll with the break-up that seemed imminent when Sharon Osbourne learned of her husband’s infidelity. Perhaps it was because she had known him since she was eighteen, or because they had been married for thirty-four years, but Sharon forgave him, saying on public television that Ozzie was a dirty dog, “but my dirty dog”.
Ozzie was accepted back into the family fold, but Michelle Pugh wasn’t so easily forgiven for her extramarital role. Ozzie’s daughter, Kelly took the betrayal personally, tweeting “Anyone looking for a cheap chunky LOW-light and blow out and a b…..b, call…” then added a phone number that has since been disconnected. Pugh filed a lawsuit against Kelly for defamation of character, intentional infliction of emotional distress and public disclosure of public facts. She has since received an undisclosed settlement.
Lesson learned: Perhaps his mistakes was in having numerous affairs rather than just one or two regular sex partners. The higher the batting average, the more likely you will be discovered.
The Real Costs of Cheating
Every state varies in its determinations of child custody, child support, spousal support, division of assets and other awards, but one thing is certain. The courts are going to look more favorably on the spouse who didn’t cheat.
If you are caught cheating, you can expect to lose at least half your assets in the settlement.
A betrayal can cripple a promising career. It can damage reputations. It brings enormous pain to the ones who have been betrayed. It affects all the family members. Every once in a while, you’ll find someone amazing like Sharon Osbourne who will make it to that golden fiftieth because she stuck it out with her dirty dog, but most of the time, if you’re cheating on the love of your life and get caught, you’ve lost your lover for good.
Lesson learned: Don’t get caught…anticipate everything in advance and find someone who needs privacy and secrecy just as much as you do. Don’t make a mistake of celebrity-caliber proportions!