7 Things Women are Looking For in an Affair Partner

Statistically speaking, there are more women than men, and yet it still seems as if a lot of men hoping to have an affair “strike out” more often than not.

Women have their pick of whoever they want and the guys have to put on a great show just to be considered. In the end, the handsome and rich guys always win the race, right?

Not necessarily. It’s just that a lot of men haven’t quite mastered communication with women and either come on as too aggressive or too inhibited.

For the best results, learn how to read women, understand women, and more to the point, understand what women want in a sexual partner. Here are seven criteria that women are considering when looking for a guy just like you.

Emotionally expressive

You don’t have to “fall in love” but DO go for the emotional connection. Many men seem to think that just because it’s an affair, they can leave all emotions out of it. Which just doesn’t work because women are not attracted to robots.

Women want an emotionally attractive and engaging man. In other words: a human.

Men who come on as too sexually aggressive are intimidating and insulting to a woman’s intelligence. Real men know that the emotional element of an affair is the best part, it’s what stirs attraction in the first place.

Emotional connection means that you talk sincerely, confidently, and with a mature patience. At the same time, you don’t want to come across as too shy or inhibited, since flirting and desiring sex is what brings you both to the dance. Strike a fine balance between sexy and classy.

Better than the norm

You don’t have to be a perfect specimen, but “above average” in your demeanor. Women want a man at his best.

This doesn’t necessarily refer to looks, but men looking for extramarital sex can increase their chances of being selected from the amateurs by:

  • Maintaining a good weight and healthy figure
  • Keeping good hygiene
  • Keeping attractive personal habits, good “date” behavior
  • Looking for someone OUTSIDE their home city, and yet not TOO far away

You should be a man confident and upfront about his looks. Women want to see you right away so they can feel something.

This means not just confidence in person but enough confidence to post pictures online (in an ad or through email) that clearly show your face, body shape and personality.

Some women do have “types” and may be picky about the face. Sometimes however, a woman just wants to know you’re the “real thing” and not some bored man-child wasting everybody’s time.

Tone it down a notch

You should be smart but not arrogant, confident and flirty but not cocky. Women want a down to earth guy with nothing to prove.

Most women are turned on by men who demonstrate above average intelligence and social skills…however, too much confidence can appear patronizing, overly challenging or even cocky.

The best thing to do is to come across smart – but restrained. Don’t overdo it. Don’t try so hard that you scare her away or make her choose the next “smart guy” in line because you’ve insulted her one too many times.

She’s perfect the way she is

Be appreciative of whatever the woman gives you. Women want men who are into them.

It’s ridiculous how many guys out there are picky about the woman they’re trying to seduce. So what if she’s a little curvy or if she doesn’t like some particular sex act?

Women respond sexually and emotionally to men who make them feel comfortable in their own skin and who make them feel desired, and at ease. They tend to quickly dismiss the men who want to compare them to a fantasy porn star.

Humor matters

Be funny! Women are counting on you to lead and to be the breaker of tension.

You can’t really go wrong being a funny guy, since the situation tends to get awkward fast if you take yourself too seriously. Laughter helps a woman to relax and get in touch with her passions, in spite of guilt, awkwardness or doubts.

Laughter is an aphrodisiac and it will help endear you to your mistress, even if your surroundings aren’t ideal. Seduce her…don’t just wait for something to happen.

Check your baggage

Don’t hyper-focus on your love life or lack thereof. A woman needs to feel that you are there with her and don’t regret anything. You must also show that you are generally satisfied in your own relationship.

Any tip off that you’re unstable or not ready for a mature “secret” relationship where no one gets hurt and she’ll run the other direction. She can’t afford to have you mess anything up, nor does she want to ruin your life.

She needs to know you’re capable of handling this relationship and that you’re not coming loaded with baggage.

If you keep calm, stay strong and show her that you’re comfortable with the situation, you can help her to relax, enjoy the moment and explore her unsatisfied passions.

Be a little persistent but never needy. All it takes is commitment to getting to know this beautiful woman you want so badly and some genuine interest in understanding her point of view.

Famous Celebs Caught Cheating and What You Can Learn from Their Mistakes

Couples fall apart for reasons that become so complicated that the majority are filed under “irreconcilable differences” but the underlying reason is usually because one partner began looking for a conciliatory other while still married.

All marriages go through a few hard lumps. Sometimes you do have to adjust your life to accommodate another lover, but when you do so, you do it logically and with advance planning. Don’t be emotional or arrogant, like some of our celebrity cheater friends.

Don’t make the mistakes that these celebrities did. Learn from their mistakes and save your reputation!

Ashton Kutcher’s Life-Changing Adultery

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Their combined assets were worth $290 million, but the six year marriage between Aston Kutcher and Demi Moore hit the rocks when Kutcher’s wandering eye began distressing his wife…and led him into a well publicized threesome with two hot young girls.

Ashton says it was a life-changing moment because he experienced the pain and suffering of divorce first hand.

Kutcher recently received the Robert D. Ray Pillar of Character award at Drake University, Des Moines. He claims he learned to build character after Moore left him and the tabloids were calling him an adulterer. He now understands how much loss is there, how much love is there and that it’s not neat or clean or messy.

Lesson learned: Maybe not a huge threesome scene to start your discreet relationship!

Kristen Stewart’s Double Whammy

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Nobody wanted to believe that Twilight star, Kristen Stewart, was cheating on her long-term boyfriend, Robert Pattinson, when rumors first began surfacing in 2012, not even after photographs were published.

A number of loyal fans declared the photos, which showed Stewart and “Snow White and the Huntsman” film director, Rupert Sanders in a hot and heavy make-out session, had been photo shopped.

Sanders’ wife, however, had seen enough. After tweeting “wow” just moments after news agencies asked for her husband’s comments, she closed down her twitter account. One year later, after numerous attempts at reconciliation by both couples, Liberty Ross Sanders had filed for divorce and Robert Pattinson had packed up his pick-up truck with his belongings and left for parts unknown. He complained bitterly about her cheating and that she was always selfish, always moody.

Stewart only carries bittersweet memories of her teenaged love affair now, and a shattered reputation among Twilight fans, but the impact on Rupert Sanders has been much greater. His indiscretion dissolved an eleven year marriage.

Although he has joint custody of their two small children, he is liable for spousal support and attorney fees. He calls his affair with Kristen a mistake and a momentary lapse, but Liberty says it’s over for good. She just doesn’t have anything left to give anymore.

Lesson learned: Don’t go high-profile if you expect to get away with murder, sexually speaking. Choose someone outside your circle, away from the camera so to speak.

Leann Rimes and Eddie Cibrian: Two Cheaters Get Together

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Le Ann Rimes and Eddie Cibrian married after they were caught cheating together, but the smoke still hasn’t cleared from the battlefield. Country star, Le Ann Rimes, said her husband of seven years knew she was about to wander down the wrong track when she wrote a song about infidelity. She said she was writing it for a friend, but it was actually her subconscious talking.

A short time later, she was having an affair with Eddie Cibrian, who was also married.

Ex-husband, Dean Sheremet, says he sympathizes with Rimes, whose publicity lime light hasn’t shown very favorably on her since her split. A VH1 reality show with Cibrian was cancelled after just one season.

He admitted he may have over-managed some aspects of her life, but that overall, he and Rimes had been a good team and she had been foolish to walk away from it.

Ex-wife to Eddie Cibrian, Brandi Glanville, is not so charitable in her appraisal of Rimes. She claims that Rimes has been deliberately stalking her boyfriend and “checking out his stuff”. She claims Rimes and Cibrian’s two children deliberately showed up at a restaurant in Malibu after her boyfriend, Donald Friese, had posted that he would be going there. Glanville tweeted, “Stalking my boyfriend to show up with my kids is the last straw”.

Cibrian says this is the last straw and that Glanville’s made-up drama was extremely frustrating, but Glanville feels something’s coming to her after nine years of marriage. The divorce may not have gone the way she would have liked, but she has enough ammunition to keep Le Ann Rimes uncomfortable in public and shaky in her career.

Lesson learned: Easy on the stalking. In fact, don’t bother. It’s the opposite of logical!

Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Biggest Regret

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Arnold Schwarzenegger’s versatile career has carried him from muscle beach to action film star with a dynamic personality that paved the way for politics. The sixty-eight year old activist took a knife wound to his reputation, however, when it was discovered he was the father of his housekeeper’s child. It also terminated a twenty-five year marriage.

It’s been six years since the Schwarzenegger’s split up, although they still haven’t officially divorced. Some suspect that neither one is willing to divide their shared four hundred million dollars in assets to two hundred million each.

Maria Shriver has announced she is back out in the dating world and is apparently uninterested in reconciling with her former husband. For his part, in a recent interview, when he was asked about his biggest regret, Arnold Schwarzenegger answered, it was the day he chose to cheat on his wife. But maybe the real mistake was…

Lesson learned: Don’t diddle the housekeeper. Don’t screw where you eat. How about, as a general rule, choose someone outside the house?

Ozzie Osbourne, the Dirty Dog

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He got down and dirty when his four year affair with his hair dresser was exposed by the news media. Ozzie Osbourne, front man for Black Sabbath, admitted publicly he had been caught cheating but apologized to Michelle Pugh, and all women he had been having affairs with, for believing they were having anything more than a fling. He told them he was a sex addict and was currently seeking therapy.

It rocked Ozzie fans who didn’t really want to roll with the break-up that seemed imminent when Sharon Osbourne learned of her husband’s infidelity. Perhaps it was because she had known him since she was eighteen, or because they had been married for thirty-four years, but Sharon forgave him, saying on public television that Ozzie was a dirty dog, “but my dirty dog”.

Ozzie was accepted back into the family fold, but Michelle Pugh wasn’t so easily forgiven for her extramarital role. Ozzie’s daughter, Kelly took the betrayal personally, tweeting “Anyone looking for a cheap chunky LOW-light and blow out and a b…..b, call…” then added a phone number that has since been disconnected. Pugh filed a lawsuit against Kelly for defamation of character, intentional infliction of emotional distress and public disclosure of public facts. She has since received an undisclosed settlement.

Lesson learned: Perhaps his mistakes was in having numerous affairs rather than just one or two regular sex partners. The higher the batting average, the more likely you will be discovered.

The Real Costs of Cheating

Every state varies in its determinations of child custody, child support, spousal support, division of assets and other awards, but one thing is certain. The courts are going to look more favorably on the spouse who didn’t cheat.

If you are caught cheating, you can expect to lose at least half your assets in the settlement.

A betrayal can cripple a promising career. It can damage reputations. It brings enormous pain to the ones who have been betrayed. It affects all the family members. Every once in a while, you’ll find someone amazing like Sharon Osbourne who will make it to that golden fiftieth because she stuck it out with her dirty dog, but most of the time, if you’re cheating on the love of your life and get caught, you’ve lost your lover for good.

Lesson learned: Don’t get caught…anticipate everything in advance and find someone who needs privacy and secrecy just as much as you do. Don’t make a mistake of celebrity-caliber proportions!